The Impact of Healing Complex Trauma

Tamara Low

- Certified EFT
- Pranic Healer

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Trauma impacts each and every one of us to varying degrees. Trauma can be described as feeling endangered,- a threat to your life – or life-force, wellbeing or sanity. The situation is essentially out of our control and we may well feel helpless, affecting or interfering with intricate physiological processes in our brain and body designed to diligently keep us safe, identify potential threats, and to prevent further trauma. ‘Complex’ and ‘Developmental Trauma’ are the types of trauma that I would like to touch on today- looking at the ways in which healing from them can deeply impact our lives.

‘Complex Trauma’ is repetitive trauma -and often begins early in life disrupting much of a child’s physical, cognitive, behavioural and emotional development; indeed- the very formation of the ‘self’. It can also seriously interfere with a child’s ability to develop a secure attachment- bond with a parent or caregiver. Moreover, ‘Developmental trauma’ can happen in- utero or after birth- occurring during the physical, neurological, and emotional- growth processes. It commonly stems from insecure attachment with a parent or caregiver.

Unhealed Trauma Impacts us in Various Ways:

Unhealed trauma can affect and impact us physically, mentally, emotionally, psychologically and energetically, in numerous ways this includes our connection with ourselves and others, how we feel day- to -day, moment- to- moment, also impacting our sense of safety and our outlook and perspective on life. 

Due to the fact that we were so young when the trauma(s) took place, it can be very difficult, if not, impossible to remember it. It is also very difficult to identify the physical and emotional reasons why we might feel the way we do, including the mysterious difficulties or circumstances that we experience, as well as the blocks and the repetition of harmful or unhealthy unconscious patterns or behaviours.

When the trauma and its resultant fear- response is at the forefront of our lives, our physiology- which is making decisions for us, is affected. We might be hypervigilant, on high alert, and our ability to “see” clearly can be greatly hindered. In addition, we might notice feeling unsafe, untrusting, feeling unsettled, anxious, or tense. Also, we may experience emotional and physical pain, and feel a variety of things: for instance -impatience, anger, irritation, frustration. We may also feel pessimistic, scattered-having a difficulty in concentration and focusing: even a feeling of being disconnected- or frozen. There can also be a numbing of emotions, low- energy, a feeling of resignation, self- criticism and we may also notice ourselves being judgemental to the self and/or others; emotionally cutting off- or withdrawing from others, confusion, shame, fear, depression, and suffering with insomnia.

If we were not able to develop a “self” as a child and, therefore, probably no becoming grounded in ourselves, it becomes a lot easier to go off- course and be drawn into unhealthy, toxic situations, negativity, pessimism, feeling helpless (-it being hard to imagine a healthy future) and powerless. It might feel “normal”, and familiar- as it might be what we know. In fact, it is not our “normal” state of being to feel this way- but it, rather, shows us that something is out- of- balance and needs our care and attention. In our natural state of being, we feel safe and alive in our bodies- which can engender natural positive, optimistic and joy-filled states, where we are able to live our deepest and truest lives! Life may indeed bring us challenges and difficulties, but now- , in our natural state, we are better able to meet-with and handle them.

Healing Our Energy System 

Pranic Healing 

‘Complex’ and/or ‘Developmental trauma’ can also be seen in our energy body. Through a chakra -scan, we can observe its presence in the congestion or depletion in the solar plexus, adrenal glands and in the brain- specifically the amygdala, vagus nerve, hippocampus, hypothalamus, and thalamus. Physiological -activity in these areas sends messages to and impacts the rest of the body, resulting in symptoms such as digestive -issues, menstrual -problems, back pain, neck pain and so on. As a result, we might receive certain “labels” such as ADHD, depression, anxiety- disorders, etc.

Pranic Healing can assist us in healing and clearing the trauma/trauma energy/trauma- response throughout the chakras- impacting our physiology, nervous system, emotions, and the mind.

Emotional Freedom Techniques 

Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT or “Tapping”) is a somatic (body) release technique which has been shown to decrease amygdala- activation, which can reduce the stress -response, slowing down heart -rate and respiration- moving away from sympathetic- activation towards the optimal arousal zone/regulation. Trauma tends to dysregulate the brain and EFT helps to re-regulate the brain and re-establish full cognitive resources. 

When our nervous system and brain comes back into balance, our unconscious mind becomes more freed- up to assist us with deep- level understanding, for example, offering us memories, ideas and insights which help to heal the energetic, physical, mental, emotional block(s), so that we can reclaim the parts of us that the trauma altered or derailed.

Indeed, ‘Pranic Healing’ and ‘Emotional Freedom Techniques’ can work so beautifully in tandem with one another to address complex trauma.  

Re-Connecting with Ourselves and Others

When we are able to look at, identify, safely process and heal the original trauma, the more our nervous systems/bodies, physiology, mind and emotions are able to relax and feel safe and secure. This changes how we feel in our bodies, about ourselves, and how we feel in the world- altering our outlook and perceptions and enabling us to become more resilient and better equipped to handle life’s many challenges and twists and turns.

We can feel more freed -up to connect with others more deeply and in meaningful and positive ways- including looking for solutions and cooperating with others for the common good. We may begin to develop or remember the parts of ourselves that need our love, compassion, care, and understanding and indeed give these to ourselves. 

End Summary 

A lifetime can be affected by the events that happen during childhood. What happened to us, what we experienced, and what we “took in” on a deep level about ourselves and the world- and our safety, is what we experienced and NOT who we ARE at our core, although it may feel that way.

Healing trauma is a sacred process. When we begin to heal the layers of the trauma and the impact on our nervous- system, energy- system, self- esteem and sense of safety in the world, we may then naturally become acquainted with our TRUE selves and begin to feel peaceful, more at ease, calm, positive, hopeful and grateful in our being(s) and in the world, and that, to me, s a beautiful thing!



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The definitions of Trauma and Complex and Developmental Trauma were adapted from

“Tapping Out of Trauma 1.0”- by Craig Weiner DC and Suzanne Fageol CC

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A brief summary of Codependency (more in “Education")

Codependency is created by our attachment trauma. During the first 3 years of life, we need to feel safe and secure with our parents or caregivers. Arielle Swartz says, “this allows us to develop a healthy sense of self that forms the foundation for our ability to develop meaningful, healthy relationships with others.” If we experience fear, unpredictability, uncertainty, neglect, rage, indifference, abuse, emotional unavailability, etc., the natural attachment process is disrupted, causing trauma, resulting in deep and lasting challenges for those that have experienced it (until it’s dealt with).

Jason Breyer describes Codependency as “a psychological and behavioural condition based on faulty programming and emotional wounds, which affects someone’s capacity to have healthy, mutually satisfying relationships.” Stacy Hoch describes Codependency as an image disorder built on the idea and belief that you should be more concerned with what others think of you than what you think of you, the idea that I do not exist without others’ validation and trying to fill inner voids vicariously by filling others. She says, for others’ sake, the Codependent harms themselves and Narcissist for the sake of themselves harm other people. If left unchecked, the pattern of Codependency may be passed from one generation to the next. See “What is Codependency?”, and “Healing and Understanding Codependency.”

Codependency Programming (but not limited to):

Codependency programming ensures that our identity, love, validation, approval, peace, and sense of safety is solely reliant on others. We falsely believe that other people and situations are responsible for our happiness or lack thereof. We completely abandon ourselves and our wounded and deeply afraid inner child(ren) for the sake of others. This can feel like an emotional, psychological, and physical prison that may come to feel like this is how things will always be, that it’s somehow our fate. In summary, its:  

-An external dependency on others for acceptance, validation, approval, and to feel good about ourselves. 

-Not having your own solid identity, becoming void of ourselves for the sake of someone else.

How it may show itself- coping mechanisms

-We seek permission from others. 

-Our self-esteem is validated by what we do and by others’ opinions of us. 

-We can struggle to meet our own needs. 

-Asserting oneself is almost impossible.

-We create behaviours that assist in denying, ignoring or preventing difficult emotions. 

-Can be very self-destructive and self-sabotaging as being self-abusive is what we were taught. 

-Codependents often isolate themselves- deep core shame and loneliness is at the heart of this.


There are many wonderful ways, tools, techniques, books, online videos, classes, therapies, therapists, modalities, support groups, etc. available to assist us in learning and understanding Codependency and to help heal its deep and many layers! The energetic hold of Codependency programming is strong. To heal, attachment trauma needs to be addressed and inner child work (I encourage you to seek out those that specialize in these areas for support) and identify deep unconscious programming, beliefs, behaviours, and thoughts. I believe that this is the level that Energy Psychology (Emotional Freedom Techniques) really shines! I am extremely passionate about assisting others in addressing the deep energetic layers of Codependency.

If you are interested in a list of, “Codependent Thoughts and Beliefs to Tap On” (Emotional Freedom Techniques can be also referred to as “Tapping”) please email me and I will send that to you.

If  you are interested in more about Narcissism and Narcissistic Abuse see “What is Narcissism?, “How to Understand and Identify Narcissistic Abuse”, and “Healing from Narcissistic Abuse.

**My writing is geared towards Empaths and Highly Sensitive People, but it is ultimately for anyone desiring to learn, grow, heal and explore


  • BREYER, JASON. Empath – A Highly Sensitive Person – Develop your gift, use emotional intelligence to turn your high sensitivity into a superpower: Overcome negative mindsets and master your social skills . Kindle Edition.
  • Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, CSAT, Ross. The Human Magnet Syndrome: The Codependent Narcissist Trap . Morgan James Publishing. Kindle Edition. 
  • Schwartz, Arielle Dr. Complex PTSD and Attachment Trauma (article). Oct 2019. 

Areas of Interest, Services and Goals

Areas of Interest:

I am passionate about assisting Empaths and Highly Sensitive  People in the areas of our lives that hold us back from our TRUE selves, passions and calling(s). My goal is to:

  • Assist in removing, eliminating and clearing the energetic blocks, hurt, pain and fear that keep us from our true selves, and our hopes, goals, dreams and desires.
  • Assist others with emotional pain; including  Narcissistic Abuse, and with their unique challenges and struggles.
  • Assist others in exploring, eliminating, and dismantling old limiting patterns and belief systems that keep us stuck, hidden and in pain (e.g. beliefs that we took on or were taught about ourselves as children).
  • Assist others in recognizing, identifying and healing Codependent belief systems and the multitude of ways that Codependency affects us, impacts us, impedes us, and holds us back, e.g. keeping us small, hidden and invisible.
  • Offer energetic and educational support for Empaths and Highly Sensitive People.

Under “About”, see Internal Inquiry Questions, such as, “What is getting in the way of your truest and deepest expression?”, and an Internal Inquiry Questions about Codependency. 

The Ultimate Goal

Living a life that is in line with TRUE us.

Being whole, happy, energetic, vibrant, and free.

Achieving and perusing our true and deepest desires (despite what anyone thinks).

Reconnecting with our TRUE self and locating our TRUE- est and DEEPEST calling.

Celebrating Empathy and the gifts of High Sensitivity.  

Developing kindness, gentleness and compassion towards ourselves.

**This is a process. We can take daily steps toward achieving these goals.

My Services

I offer support for those that desire to explore their inner world to excavate their TRUE self and their deepest and truest goals, passions and desires; for those that desire to go on an emotional wellness scavenger hunt, to clean the old clutter and find the true gem that is YOU.

Pranic Psychotherapy is Pranic Healing applied in energetically preventing and treating Psychological ailments, where stress is at the root. This is where I like to focus on. Pranic Healing works with the chakra system and the auric layers.

Emotional Freedom Techniques works with the meridian system to clear energetic blocks or disruptions that get in the way of our health (physical and emotional). It is one of the MOST powerful somatic (body) release techniques.

Emotional Freedom Techniques and Pranic Healing both assist in regulating our Nervous System. 

Welcome to Empathic Heart Healing

Empaths and Highly Sensitive People (HSP’s) have unique ways of experiencing, feeling, sensing, observing, perceiving, processing, and absorbing the world. They feel things deeply; including love, beauty and joy, pain, hurt, and sorrow.

Emotional pain or struggle is a block or disruption in our body’s energy system and can stem from countless places, unique to you and your situation. My passion is to assist Empaths and HSP’s in understanding, accessing and releasing the root cause (feelings, thoughts, beliefs, and emotions) of the energy block(s) or disturbances. Codependency is just one manifestation of emotional pain, an example of how our TRUE selves can get buried, hidden (at the beginning of our lives), and stay this way until it is safe to re-emerge.

Other avenues might be narcissistic abuse, heartache/heartbreak, infertility, low self-esteem, rejection (initially from others- and then towards ourselves), neglect, and you can insert your experience(s) here. When we are in emotional pain, there are corresponding feelings such as shame, sadness, grief, guilt, fear, loneliness, anger, isolation, and despair, to name a few. Our body gives us clues through feelings and sensations about what is happening within us and how we feel around others and in certain environments.

Emotional Freedom Techniques, also called EFT, or “Tapping” can assist us in identifying, releasing, clearing, and healing the energetic and emotional blocks, beliefs, fears, and barriers that limit us and keep us stuck, small, and hidden, so that we can access and get re-in touch with our deepest, fullest, truest and most authentic expression- as well as deep inner peace, vibrant health, light-heartedness, joy, play, passion, bliss and vitality.

Every one of us has a unique energy/energy vibration, traits, purpose(s), gifts, talents, abilities, etc. to offer, to offer others, and contribute to the world. We all have unique goals, dreams and desires.  Blocks in our energy system can derail or make difficult, any one of these. My deepest and truest desires for EVERYONE is to live and express themselves in the deepest, truest, freest, and most authentic way possible!!

When we are young, we learn by watching, observing, and adapting to our surroundings. We are often told by our parent(s), caregivers, society, etc. who they think we are, who they think we should be, and who they want us to be, do, say, or act like. As we get older, these adaptations and beliefs can become a hindrance. We can be controlled by a belief that was learned and taught, which does not even have its origins in who we are, and how we desire to live.

As an example, I recently explored an old, worn-out belief of mine with an EFT colleague. That is, “I am only worthy, only if I am productive, and that “play” is a waste of time.” Yikes! This is a belief that I learned and took on as “truth” very early on- a learned family pattern. It was impacting me in numerous ways (which were not in line with TRUE me). This is certainly not a belief that I want to pass on to my son! I LOVE the magic and power of EFT! and Pranic Healing!! My goal is to provide a safe, compassionate, secure, and non-judgemental space for you to peel back the layers of what no longer serves you and holds you back from TRUE you….

This quote from Judith Orloff, the author of “The Empath’s Survival Guide” sums this up perfectly and resonates with me deeply:

“I’ve seen how empaths are often “chosen” to break the generational patterns of negativity in their families. They don’t necessarily volunteer for this role on a conscious level, but it’s nonetheless their destiny to fulfil it. When empaths heal themselves and say “yes” to honouring their sensitivities, they are saying “NO” to patterns of abuse, neglect, and addiction that have been repeated in their relatives. The intergenerational transmission of pain stops with them. Through their recovery and the acceptance of their gifts, empaths are the ones who can repair the greater familial whole. Mindful, conscious people are the most effective agents of change.”



If you are familiar with EFT or would like to explore more about EFT, and how it can be used for Codependency, please email me, and I will send you a copy of “Codependent Beliefs, Thoughts, Feelings, and Emotions to Tap on.”


  • Orloff, Judith. The Empath’s Survival Guide (pp. 207-208). Sounds True. Kindle Edition.