What is Emotional Freedom Technique?

Tamara Low

Empath
Accredited EFT
Pranic Healer Author, Lover of Kindness, Wholeness, Healing, Deep connections and the Earth!

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Emotional Freedom Technique falls under the umbrella of Energy Psychology. According to Fred Gallo, when we experience a psychological problem, such as trauma, we also have an energy imbalance or disruption in our body’s energy system. This may show up in various systems in your body, including the nervous system, glandular system, meridian system, and the chakra system. Techniques (such as EFT) that shift these energies return your body’s energy system to balance influencing your health, emotions and state of mind, eliminating the problem.

Energy is the blueprint, the infrastructure, the invisible foundation, writes David Feinstein for the health of your body. Your body is composed of energy pathways (meridians) and energy centres (chakras) in a dynamic interplay with your cells, organs, moods and thoughts. Emotional Freedom Techniques (also called EFT or “Tapping”), works with the meridian system. The energy of the meridian system is called Chi or Prana.

How does EFT work?

The key component of EFT is tapping on a sequence of the body’s acupoints (the endpoints of the meridians), which engages and sends electromagnetic signals to the brain’s limbic system (the emotional centre of the brain and body) and the amygdala (the stress centre), to reduce its activity and arousal. This helps us lower cortisol levels, which is the stress hormone, so that we may feel calmer and heal the energy imbalance and disruption. It also affects the hippocampus, which is the memory centre of the brain.

As we are tapping on the acupoints, we also bring to mind what we would like to address, it could be a disturbing memory, a negative feeling, belief or thought, pain or sensation, fear, difficult situations that we are dealing with, etc. and then we go through the intricate EFT process. Studies have shown that this changes the emotional reaction to the memory (in the brain and body) and your brain’s response to the situation.

Fred Gallo says, “negative emotions associated with a memory are electrical and chemical processes that can be changed—often as easily as they were formed in the first place”. Further, EFT can change the structure and the meaning of the experience. We do not lose the memory, but the charge and the distressing emotions attached to it are no longer there. Once this is released, we will often see things very differently (cognitive shift) from the beginning of a session, and we can talk about it and think about it without being retraumatized. It’s truly remarkable!! Studies with long-term follow-up points are showing the changes last over time.

How EFT can assist with Outdated Thoughts, Beliefs, Limiting Beliefs, Fears, etc.? 

Before the age of 7, we are basically in a hypnotic state, learning, absorbing, taking in, and believing what we see, hear, feel, and observe around us in our family systems and beyond. This becomes part of our unconscious programming and who we believe ourselves to be and can create a deep internal mess. Often, the people that we do this early learning and absorbing from are unconscious and wounded themselves. We develop and adopt strategies to adapt, navigate and survive in our complex early environments. Codependency is an example of one of those early strategies.

If left unchecked and unexplored, we can go through our lives playing out these unconscious beliefs, thoughts, wounds, traumas, and patterns, which then no longer serve us and our best interest, often resulting in more pain, wounding and trauma, which can stay firmly in place (and passed down to the next generation) if, or until, they are deeply looked at and deconstructed.

Hurtful words, constant criticism, control, circumstances, and events that were not processed through the body are still impacting our body, mind and emotions. Our fight or flight response can be still activated long after an event or situation (and all the time, as with PTSD and complex PTSD). An indication that the body has not yet fully processed could be feeling anger, hurt, unsafe, neglect, pain, shame, confusion, powerlessness, fear, a phobia, a grudge, unforgiveness, etc. EFT helps heal and process the fight or flight stress response in the body and difficult feelings and emotions.

What Might Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT, or “Tapping”) Assist us With?

-trauma dysregulates the brain- EFT helps to re-regulate and neutralize traumatized parts of the brain (EFTi glossary).

-healing energy disruptions and balances the body’s energy systems.

-calming the brain/amygdala. 

-the resolution of unresolved childhood issues and traumas.

-transforming limiting, unwanted beliefs, dysfunctional and problematic emotions (such as fear, guilt, shame, anger, and jealousy) and emotional responses and behaviours and habits that shape our lives by altering the brain chemistry. 

-feeling safe in our bodies.  

-healing negative thoughts, feelings, behaviours and instil more positive thoughts, beliefs and feelings. 

-anxious thoughts, fears and worries.

-sadness and grief.

-cultivating self-acceptance and self-love.

-physical pain. 

-the physiological response of a craving (chocolate, cigarettes, alcohol, and more) when the amygdala is calm the craving diminishes (Peta Stapleton)

-codependent belief patterns.

-increased understanding and connection with ourselves and others.

Craig Weiner (EFT Trainer) describes EFT as one of the most powerful somatic (body) release techniques. 

End Summary

Our state of mind and our bodies give us beautiful clues and indications about what is going on in our nervous systems. “EFT is an example of a Somatic therapy, which is a holistically orientated therapy that works to address the “bodily” memory of trauma by helping the client recognize where they are carrying physical tension.” EFT has been shown to decrease amygdala activation (in our brain), which reduces the stress response, moving away from sympathetic activation towards the optimal arousal zone, where the brain, mind and body are coherent.

EFT helps us find peace, inner stillness, clarity, being able to see things differently (it is common after a session to be able to able to see solutions and clarity gaining new understandings and insights so that we may come to an accepting place around our challenges and challenging feelings and emotions. 

It is my joy to assist you in clearing any blocks or disruptions so that you may live a vibrant, peaceful, inspired, healthy, joy-filled life!!

Warmly,

Tamara

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Disclaimer

** EFT is not a substitute for medical, naturopathic or psychological care, it is a compliment to it.

References:

  • Gallo, Fred. Energy Tapping for Trauma (p. 5, 54). New Harbinger Publications. Kindle Edition.
  • Feinstein, David, Eden, Donna and Craig, Gary. The Healing Power of EFT and Energy Psychology (p. 3, 14, 77). Piatkis, London, UK. 2005. 
  •  Stapleton, Dr. Peta. The Science behind Tapping (p. 5-6, 12-13). Hay House. Kindle Edition. 

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Internal Exploration Questions
General

These questions are just for you to ponder. You can fill it out and save it for your interest if you like. They can help us to get to the root of what is keeping us from TRUE us and our most authentic expression (which can often get buried for many reasons).

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Codependency

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A brief summary of Codependency (more in “Education")

Codependency is created by our attachment trauma. During the first 3 years of life, we need to feel safe and secure with our parents or caregivers. Arielle Swartz says, “this allows us to develop a healthy sense of self that forms the foundation for our ability to develop meaningful, healthy relationships with others.” If we experience fear, unpredictability, uncertainty, neglect, rage, indifference, abuse, emotional unavailability, etc., the natural attachment process is disrupted, causing trauma, resulting in deep and lasting challenges for those that have experienced it (until it’s dealt with).

Jason Breyer describes Codependency as “a psychological and behavioural condition based on faulty programming and emotional wounds, which affects someone’s capacity to have healthy, mutually satisfying relationships.” Stacy Hoch describes Codependency as an image disorder built on the idea and belief that you should be more concerned with what others think of you than what you think of you, the idea that I do not exist without others’ validation and trying to fill inner voids vicariously by filling others. She says, for others’ sake, the Codependent harms themselves and Narcissist for the sake of themselves harm other people. If left unchecked, the pattern of Codependency may be passed from one generation to the next. See “What is Codependency?”, and “Healing and Understanding Codependency.”

Codependency Programming (but not limited to):

Codependency programming ensures that our identity, love, validation, approval, peace, and sense of safety is solely reliant on others. We falsely believe that other people and situations are responsible for our happiness or lack thereof. We completely abandon ourselves and our wounded and deeply afraid inner child(ren) for the sake of others. This can feel like an emotional, psychological, and physical prison that may come to feel like this is how things will always be, that it’s somehow our fate. In summary, its:  

-An external dependency on others for acceptance, validation, approval, and to feel good about ourselves. 

-Not having your own solid identity, becoming void of ourselves for the sake of someone else.

How it may show itself- coping mechanisms

-We seek permission from others. 

-Our self-esteem is validated by what we do and by others’ opinions of us. 

-We can struggle to meet our own needs. 

-Asserting oneself is almost impossible.

-We create behaviours that assist in denying, ignoring or preventing difficult emotions. 

-Can be very self-destructive and self-sabotaging as being self-abusive is what we were taught. 

-Codependents often isolate themselves- deep core shame and loneliness is at the heart of this.

Healing

There are many wonderful ways, tools, techniques, books, online videos, classes, therapies, therapists, modalities, support groups, etc. available to assist us in learning and understanding Codependency and to help heal its deep and many layers! The energetic hold of Codependency programming is strong. To heal, attachment trauma needs to be addressed and inner child work (I encourage you to seek out those that specialize in these areas for support) and identify deep unconscious programming, beliefs, behaviours, and thoughts. I believe that this is the level that Energy Psychology (Emotional Freedom Techniques) really shines! I am extremely passionate about assisting others in addressing the deep energetic layers of Codependency.

If you are interested, please click on the link for “Codependent Thoughts and Beliefs to Tap On” (Emotional Freedom Techniques can also be referred to as “Tapping”). 

If  you are interested in more about Narcissism and Narcissistic Abuse, see “What is Narcissism?, “How to Understand and Identify Narcissistic Abuse,” and “Healing from Narcissistic Abuse.

**My writing is geared towards Empaths and Highly Sensitive People, but it is ultimately for anyone desiring to learn, grow, heal and explore.

References:

  • BREYER, JASON. Empath – A Highly Sensitive Person – Develop your gift, use emotional intelligence to turn your high sensitivity into a superpower: Overcome negative mindsets and master your social skills . Kindle Edition.
  • Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, CSAT, Ross. The Human Magnet Syndrome: The Codependent Narcissist Trap . Morgan James Publishing. Kindle Edition. 
  • Schwartz, Arielle Dr. Complex PTSD and Attachment Trauma (article). Oct 2019. 

Processing Climate Emotions

Ecological Sorrow, Grief, Anxiety, etc.- and Impassioned Ecological Healing and Awareness

One thing that I KNOW for certain is that MANY of us are fiercely passionate about the Earth that we call HOME and want to live in harmony with her, care for her, make decisions based on her health and well-being and desire for ALL of life and her inhabitant to live in balance and harmony; biodiversity, ecosystems, animals, trees, plants, insects, clean air, clean water, healthy abundant food, healthy soils, healthy conscious, aware humans, etc.

 

The FACT is- SHE has tolerated A LOT (of abuse and mistreatment) from humans. Indigenous people knew/know exactly how to live in harmony with her and respect her…. BUT, those who ascended on them tried to eradicate Indigenous people and their ways- utterly wrongly and disgustingly. Instead, they chose/chose to exploit others, the Earth/nature, in favour of greed and power, which continues today. We are at a crossroads- a crucial time in history. The Earth and her inhabitants are in turmoil. Humanity is in turmoil. These are intense and difficult times!

 

Empaths/Earth Empaths and Highly Sensitive People and others deeply FEEL this chaos, turmoil and upheaval and question Why and How is this even happening!? It brings up A LOT of emotions such as – grief, sorrow, sadness, despair, hopelessness, overwhelm, confusion. How did we stray SO far away from balance, peace, centre, the Earth’s wisdom, guidance, and healing?

 

We feel and see the collective fear, doom, gloom, and panic everywhere we turn; we are bombarded with bad and scary news. It is hard to stay positive, hopeful, and joyful and alive within our beings when inundated with fear, dread, and collective uncertainty. Many of us sensitives are experiencing the effects of Earth Abuse (neglect and mistreatment), Eco Trauma. For years it has caused me to retreat within, to want to look away/push it all away (because it’s ALL too much, too overwhelming, and too painful), get smaller and live in fear, feel hopeless, and not want to face the intense realities we face. But, we HAVE to! You/we are so profoundly NEEDED!

 

My passion and purpose are to assist and support Empaths/Earth Empaths, HSP’s and ALL of those deeply concerned about the Earth, Climate, Environment in healing our feelings and emotions around the situation we face; the Eco Trauma/Grief, Sorrow, and Anxiety in our beings- this fear and frozenness so that we can take action in the direction of becoming more energetically, physically, mentally emotionally free within ourselves and for that of the Earth and all! Also, to be in absolute solidarity with those changing, transforming, and championing the Earth- transforming the OLD worn-out harmful paradigms and bringing forth a NEW, balanced, in- harmony relationship with the Earth and Humanity! Let’s do this!

Earth love,  

Tamara

Welcome to Empathic Heart Healing

As an Empath, Highly Sensitive Person, you have a unique soul’s purpose and a unique perspective. You are ‘wired’ differently and are not meant to ‘fit in” to the status quo. It can be very challenging to see/view and feel things differently than most people- but we are not meant to; we are meant to see and feel them from OUR perspective.

It is so important to accept our highly sensitive, empathic nature, heal our hearts and wounding, learn to love, accept who we are at our core, and find and live our unique soul’s purpose, joy, and spark, passion!

You have a huge loving heart and a large capacity to love and care for others, animals, and the planet. LOVE is who we are; it’s our natural state of being! The world needs (more than ever) our gifts, passion, and heart!

I desire to work with self-aware Empaths and HSP’s who are passionate about learning and growing and deeply desire to explore, excavate, and heal their inner worlds, heart places that need healing, care, support, and attention. I hold a safe, non-judgemental space for you, deep presence, and deep intuitive listening. I bring love, warmth, and care to everything that I do. I use:

Emotional Freedom Techniques is a gentle cognitive, somatic (body) and energetic approach to healing. It assists us in looking at the deep unconscious programming, beliefs, behaviours, and thoughts that impact our behaviour or create imbalance. EFT works with the meridian system to shift energetic blocks or disruptions, returning the body’s energy system to balance- helping us to regulate our nervous system.

Pranic Psychotherapy is Pranic Healing applied in energetically addressing, balancing, and preventing psychological ailments, where stress is the root. This is where I like to focus. Pranic Healing works with the chakra system and auric layers.

EFT and Pranic Healing work exceptionally well together!

I am passionate about supporting Empaths and Highly Sensitive People in healing and nurturing their hearts, discovering and living their true heart’s desires, and embodying their unique gifts! More specifically, my focus is on assisting you in uncovering and:

  • healing and processing the emotional pain from heartbreak, heartache (grief, loss, sorrow, sadness).
  • processing eco/environmental/climate sorrow – our feelings around ALL that is happening with/to our planet and all of her inhabitants.
  • clear the blocks to healthy self-love, care and regard (e.g., feelings of unworthiness, e.g., don’t feel worthy of healthy love). 
  • dismantling old limiting patterns and belief systems that keep us stuck, hidden, and in pain.
  • healing the grip and pull of toxic relationship patterns, feelings, and beliefs such as codependency. Codependency profoundly impacts, impedes, affects us, and holds us back in many ways, e.g., keeping us small, hidden, and invisible. For more information, see Codependent-Beliefs-To-Tap-On for an example of such belief systems and what we can do about it.
  • recovering and healing from narcissistic abuse, being manipulated and taken advantage of.
  • celebrating and accepting being an Empath, a Highly Sensitive Person in this world.  Also:
  • to uncover, recover, rediscover, and reconnect with your joy spark, play, unique gifts, purpose, passion, and calling.
  • nurturing our playful heart, our innate play and joy, to find play in purpose.
  • regulating our nervous system.

BIG Whole Hearts unite!

Tamara

Under “About,” see “Internal Exploration Questions- General” and “Internal Exploration Questions -Codependency.”

Goals:

Heart healing, heart balancing, heart wholeness.

Developing and cultivating kindness, gentleness, love, and compassion towards ourselves.

Coming to an accepting, peaceful place around our difficult feelings and emotions, e.g., sorrow, sadness, suffering, isolation, heaviness, loneliness, fear.

Clear harmful energies and residue from past relationships.

Healing the patterns that keep us attracting painful relationships.

Feeling worthy of the types of relationships that we desire and authentic connection with someone who also lives from the heart, is kind, can express their feelings, and you can express yours safely. Both people take responsibility for their actions, no games, you deeply care about each other’s happiness and wellbeing.

Healing our faulty internalized beliefs about how we view love and discovering what it truly is/looks like, for us, learning what healthy love is and being open to and attracting (kind, gentle) healthy love in our lives.

Making self-loving decisions about who we let into our hearts and lives.

Learning to trust ourselves and make kind, loving, safe choices about who we allow into our lives and hearts.

Relationship(s) in your life that nurture you, that are safe, gentle, loving, nurturing and kind.

 The freedom to live and love wholeheartedly.

Thriving after heartbreak, heartache, rejection, loss, abuse, betrayal, narcissistic abuse.

Reclaiming and rediscovering ourselves/who we TRULY are and our true passion and purpose in the process.

To have fun, be joyful, playful, free and to live our hearts desires.

A regulated nervous system, inner peace.

Transforming pain and suffering.

More about Empathic Heart Healing: 

Empaths and Highly Sensitive People (HSP’s) have unique ways of experiencing, feeling, sensing, observing, perceiving, processing, and absorbing the world. They feel things deeply; including love, beauty and joy, pain, hurt, and sorrow.

Emotional pain or struggle is a block or disruption in our body’s energy system and can stem from countless places, unique to you and your situation. My passion is to assist Empaths and HSP’s in understanding, accessing and releasing the root cause (feelings, thoughts, beliefs, and emotions) of the energy block(s) or disturbances. Codependency is just one manifestation of emotional pain, an example of how our TRUE selves can get buried, hidden (at the beginning of our lives), and stay this way until it is safe to re-emerge.

Other avenues might be narcissistic abuse, heartache/heartbreak, infertility, low self-esteem, rejection (initially from others- and then towards ourselves), neglect, and you can insert your experience(s) here. When we are in emotional pain, there are corresponding feelings such as shame, sadness, grief, guilt, fear, loneliness, anger, isolation, and despair, to name a few. Our body gives us clues through feelings and sensations about what is happening within us and how we feel around others and in certain environments.

Emotional Freedom Techniques, also called EFT, or “Tapping” can assist us in identifying, releasing, clearing, and healing the energetic and emotional blocks, beliefs, fears, and barriers that limit us and keep us stuck, small, and hidden, so that we can access and get re-in touch with our deepest, fullest, truest and most authentic expression- as well as deep inner peace, vibrant health, light-heartedness, joy, play, passion, bliss and vitality.

Every one of us has a unique energy/energy vibration, traits, purpose(s), gifts, talents, abilities, etc. to offer, to offer others, and contribute to the world. We all have unique goals, dreams and desires.  Blocks in our energy system can derail or make difficult, any one of these. My deepest and truest desires for EVERYONE is to live and express themselves in the deepest, truest, freest, and most authentic way possible!!

When we are young, we learn by watching, observing, and adapting to our surroundings. We are often told by our parent(s), caregivers, society, etc. who they think we are, who they think we should be, and who they want us to be, do, say, or act like. As we get older, these adaptations and beliefs can become a hindrance. We can be controlled by a belief that was learned and taught, which does not even have its origins in who we are, and how we desire to live.

As an example, I recently explored an old, worn-out belief of mine with an EFT colleague. That is, “I am only worthy, only if I am productive, and that “play” is a waste of time.” Yikes! This is a belief that I learned and took on as “truth” very early on- a learned family pattern. It was impacting me in numerous ways (which were not in line with TRUE me). This is certainly not a belief that I want to pass on to my son! I LOVE the magic and power of EFT! and Pranic Healing!! My goal is to provide a safe, compassionate, secure, and non-judgemental space for you to peel back the layers of what no longer serves you and holds you back from TRUE you….

This quote from Judith Orloff, the author of “The Empath’s Survival Guide” sums this up perfectly and resonates with me deeply:

“I’ve seen how empaths are often “chosen” to break the generational patterns of negativity in their families. They don’t necessarily volunteer for this role on a conscious level, but it’s nonetheless their destiny to fulfil it. When empaths heal themselves and say “yes” to honouring their sensitivities, they are saying “NO” to patterns of abuse, neglect, and addiction that have been repeated in their relatives. The intergenerational transmission of pain stops with them. Through their recovery and the acceptance of their gifts, empaths are the ones who can repair the greater familial whole. Mindful, conscious people are the most effective agents of change.”

Warmly,

Tamara

References:

  • Orloff, Judith. The Empath’s Survival Guide (pp. 207-208). Sounds True. Kindle Edition.